This summer, when I turned to the first page of Elisabeth Elliot’s “Passion and Purity,” I tried to have an open mind. Through the years, I’ve read dozens of books about dating and marriage, and unfortunately many have fallen flat in the face of extended singleness. Amid the recent mass cynicism toward purity culture (culminating… Continue reading Rediscovering “Passion and Purity”
Early last week found me getting a check-up for the first time in more than a decade. With medical professionals in my family, I can too easily put off those preventative appointments. So, I sat in the olive-green vinyl chair, the sort that populate doctors’ offices across the country. I felt a bit sheepish, like… Continue reading I’m Still Glad I Kissed Dating Goodbye
"Eww! You're the Old Maid." The cacophony of childish voices would shriek and dissolve into a babble of laughter. Sometimes my voice was among them as we sat pointing and jeering at the unlucky child holding the only card with no match in the deck. Other times, I was the one left with the card… Continue reading Redefining Old Maid
"Everybody lies." My nineteen-year-old eyes widened as I listened, speechless. How could my fiancé excuse his dishonesty like that? How could he think that way? He was a Christian. We read the Bible together. I trusted him. How could he lie to me? In the aftermath of my teenage betrayal, I was baptized into adulthood… Continue reading Who Can You Trust?
Sometimes the only thing worse than being single is thinking about singleness. Or talking about singleness. Or reading about singleness. Or writing about singleness. For the past three years, I’ve been blessed to have the opportunity to write for a Christian relationship service. I’ve learned so much about myself and about relationships through the process.… Continue reading When I Don’t Know What to Say About My Singleness